Relationship Counseling

Our relationship therapists in Cincinnati and Indianapolis are ready to help.

Relationship Problems

John Bowlby redefined the field of psychotherapy and understanding of relationships with his research and development of Attachment Theory. He stressed that the ability to relate to others and create close connections is the ultimate barometer of health and positive functioning. When your important relationships are in trouble, that means you are experiencing distress! People often find themselves repeating interpersonal patterns that reinforce a negative cycle of conflict, avoidance, and hopelessness. This guide explains relationship distress and the treatments that can help you and your relationships thrive. 

Relationship Problems

High Conflict

  • Conflict escalates
    when one or both
    partners sense
  • Protest behaviors
    (such as demanding,
    clinging, criticizing,
    etc.) activate as a way
    to fight for connection                      


  • When conflict feels
    patterns of avoidance
    are an attempt to
    soothe and protect
  • Many cope by
    shutting down,
    minimizing, problem
    solving, and numbing out                    

Trust & Betrayal

  • Infidelity, lies, and key
    moments where a
    partner wasn’t there
    for you redefine the
    relationship as unsafe
  • Healing these
    ruptures allows
    partners to move
    forward and rebuild

Playfulness, Sex & Intimacy

  • Stress, relationship
    tension, and other
    factors can interfere
    with capacity for fun,
    pursuing dreams and
    new experiences
    together, and
    contribute to sexual
    dysfunction or

Separation / Divorce Decisions

  • Difficulty making
    decisions about the
    relationship occur
    when one partner
    wants to work on the
    marriage and the
    other is leaning out
  • Individuals may also
    want support to
    evaluate their needs                 

Divorce / Breakup Recovery

  • Making sense of your
    past is an important
    part of creating the
    future you want
  • Healing wounds
    helps you rebuild
    security & confidence
  • Learn how to get your
    needs met in

Effective Treatments for Relationship Problems

Emotionally Focused Therapy

  • Couples, individuals, and families can benefit from this
  • Identify the negative patterns perpetuating disconnection
    and distress in the relationship
  • Get support to understand your own and your partner’s
    emotions and needs; understand your impact on each
  • Engage in transformative conversations that repair old
    wounds and build trust and connection
  • Discover how to spot a rift before it widens

Gottman Method

  • Use the Gottman Relationship Checkup Assessment to quickly identify strengths, weaknesses, and receive recommendations for therapy
  • Couples learn communication and conflict resolution techniques to help you through gridlock conflicts
  • Engage with interventions to build closeness, friendship, and shared meaning to create a stronger path forward

Discernment Counseling

  • For couples who are ambivalent about staying in the marriage or proceeding with divorce, this time limited approach (up to 5 sessions) helps bring clarity and confidence
  • Outcomes are framed into three paths: status quo (stay married), separation/divorce, or 6-month commitment to couples therapy

Take the Next Step with Support for Relationships

We want to help you create an individualized roadmap (a ThriveMap!) to get CLEAR DIRECTION on how you can achieve your goals and overcome your challenges.


Understand the Problem


Choose Treatment Targets


Create an
Action Plan

Frequently Asked Questions About Relationship Counseling

What is it like to work with our relationship therapists in the Indianapolis and Cincinnati areas?

We believe the connection with your therapist and having clear guidance about the treatment and therapeutic process are critical for a great therapy experience, that’s why we promise our clients Remarkable Connection and Clear Direction. Your unique needs and expectations matter to us as we work together to help you accomplish your goals. Here’s a snapshot of the ThrivePointe experience.

1. Build a Strong Therapeutic Relationship

Team up with a therapist who strives to deeply understand your experience and expertly guide you through the process of making changes.

2. Understand the Problem

Develop a clear picture of your problem, including your personal history, symptoms, triggers, and the ways your life is impacted.

3. Create an Action Plan

Using evidence-based approaches, design an individualized plan to achieve your goals.

4. Implement New Skills & Solutions

Get the right balance of support and challenge to make life and relationship changes.

5. Track Your Progress To Do What Works

Make sure therapy is helping by monitoring improvements and refining your action plan.

6. Achieve Your Goals

Experience the Satisfaction of working hard to see positive changes and growth in your life!


Bonding with others is our most critical survival strategy as humans. When you experience distress in your relationships such as a spouse, parent, child, boss, or friend, it has a profound impact on your sense of security, mood, and default reactions to cope. Kristen is a therapist with advanced training in EFT and can help you work through relationship distress with or without the person you are experiencing problems with.

She will help you makes sense of the negative patterns of interaction you are caught in and teach you what attachment distress looks and feels like. You’ll get expert relationship knowledge to spot what’s happening underneath the miscues people send with their words and behaviors. You can process painful experiences, unmet needs, and consider new perspectives about others as well. Instead of avoiding and suppressing your needs, feelings, and desires, you will get support to take gradual steps toward reaching and sharing. If you’re not sure if you want to work on repairing a rupture in a relationship, your needs will be honored every step of the way. You can get support to process your feelings, explore the risks of reaching, and problem solve strategies for engaging or not engaging the relationship.

What does relationship counseling look like?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence based treatment approach that helps couples, families, and individuals get to the heart of their distress for change that lasts. You will take gradual steps toward deeper connection, trust, repairing wounds, and exploring new solutions.

    • Name the problems you want to address.
    • Track the patterns of interaction that block you from connection.
    • Explore the needs that drive your reactions.
    • Identify the miscues you each send and receive, and understand how they keep you feeling insecure about your bond.
    • Slow down the cycle in session to deeply attend to each of your feelings, beliefs, and needs.
    • Experience validation and support to stay with your emotions long enough to listen to what they’re telling you.
    • Learn to work through triggers together so you don’t need to rely on emotion suppression, avoidance, or escalated conflict at home.
    • Make new connections in therapy and get support to open up about hurts, fears, and longings.
    • Build confidence to express yourself, connection, and trust with each new experience of closeness and vulnerability.
    • Get to know each other more deeply because of the new ways you communicate in session.
    • Sharing new feelings, fears, and longings can feel like a big risk, so you will get support to express what the new reach is like for you.
    • Experiences of skepticism, hurt, excitement, etc. are welcomed and worked through together.
    • Strengthen your understanding of each other and your bond in each new encounter.
    • Reflect on new experiences of closeness, support, and hope.
    • Reshape your relationship over time, taking time to spot and celebrate the small shifts that move you towards a more soothing and secure style of interacting.

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in Ohio or Indiana?

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More ThrivePointe Counseling Services Near Cincinnati and Indianapolis

As a practice, we value treating the whole family’s needs. So, at our various ThrivePointe locations in Indianapolis, Greenwood, Blue Ash and Liberty Township, we can serve you. We provide adult counselingcouples counseling, child counseling and play therapy, teen counselingfamily counseling and Christian counselingOur team cares about you and wants to be a part of your thriving life. Learn more and call us today!

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